About the Book
It’s well-known within the personality community that, statistically speaking anyway, INFJs are the “rarest” of the 16 types. And because they grow up feeling “different” or misunderstood—possibly even like outsiders—they experience a profound sense of relief and validation upon discovering their personality type and its relative rarity. In this singular “aha” moment, whatever angst or confusion they may have been wrestling with is replaced by a sense of clarity and empowerment.
And while embracing the unique or “rare” aspects of their personality can be a useful first step toward self-understanding, it can only take INFJs so far. Past a certain point in the self-discovery process, holding fast to their rareness may actually deceive them into believing that they’ve come to end of the road, growth wise. In other words, awareness of their rarity may constitute knowledge, but not necessarily wisdom—a distinction only earned once they learn to redirect their focus from their status as outliers and black swans toward matters of personal development.
This book aims to shed light on what a successful path to growth and development can look like for INFJs. Not only does it explore INFJs’ exceptional qualities that are worth strengthening and honing, but also their blindspots and pitfalls, so they can manifest their full creative potential. It invites INFJs to embark on a journey of self-transformation—both conceptually and experientially—which can only be described as “beyond rare.”
Table of Contents
“I’ve Never Felt So Understood”
I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your book Beyond Rare. I just downloaded it one hour ago, and I am now on page 41 and never ever have I felt so understood, also never ever have I read such a clear description of Ni and its workings. Your book came to me at just the right moment, I feel so grateful that I wanted to thank you immediately. I love the in-depth explanations (which IMO is often lacking in many other INFJ studies I have read so far)… I find your insights helpful and an encouragement to continue developing myself following my own path. Thank you again!
I’ve finished reading the book and thoroughly enjoyed it. As an INFJ, my inner experience felt very well represented. I particularly appreciated the courage and tact that it took to kindly, yet firmly describe the defensive aspects of grandiosity and victimhood that plague us as ways to cover loneliness, insecurity, hurt, and deep existential / relational angst… On the whole, it was profoundly impactful and I can intuit how tremendously helpful it is going to be for me on my journey. Thank you, Elaine, for the pearl of your journey! It’s shiny and beautiful!
“Exquisite Impact on Me”
I’m an INFJ who has spent the last 8 years in relative solitude in order to “uncover” the richness of what it means to be an INFJ. So it was truly remarkable to read almost EVERYTHING I experience and have experienced as an INFJ in delightful (and obviously INFJ writing style) prose with such solid reasoning provided with each facet of the personality. This book has had an exquisite impact on me already.
“A Challenge Towards Growth”
For most of my life, I knew I was different, but I didn’t quite understand how or why… and often, I felt deeply out of place, or even wrong in the world. Your INFJ profile helped me build understanding and confidence. And now, with your excellent new book, I am helped again—this time through a challenge towards growth—as I move into and work through a new phase of life. Thank you so very much for your work.
“A Beautiful Work”
I began reading last night and love the book! Beautiful work and, while it is well-researched and supported, I also especially appreciate the depth of Elaine’s personal insight as shared.
“Couldn’t Put It Down”
Hello and thanks to author Elaine Schallock Drenth for the fascinating and helpful book! I couldn’t put it down, devoured it in a day, and am ready for a second read.
About the Author
A regular contributor to Personality Junkie, Elaine has been an ardent student of personality theory since she was first introduced to the Myers-Briggs over 20 years ago. As an INFJ, she is especially passionate about depth psychology and understanding the subconscious aspects of personality type. Her work has focused largely on the inferior function and its role in the individuation process. This is her first book.